Excess Fighting Ruining Your Marriage? Try These Tips

Every couple fights. You wouldn’t necessarily want to start fighting with your spouse on a daily basis though. Sooner or later, one of you may start thinking about getting divorced if all you do is fight. You will need to find certain ways to limit the amount of fighting that you do.

Couples should always try to avoid going to bed while they are still mad. According to lore, you’re supposed to stay up until a solution has been found. However, this isn’t always the case. If you are tired, it may just be better for you to just head to bed. After you have both slept well, you should be able to work out your problems in a rational manner.

Your partner should always be someone who you are comfortable sharing your feelings with. Partners also need to be understanding. No matter what your partner thinks about something, you should always be respectful about their opinion. Dismissing your partner’s feelings is a huge mistake. Don’t expect your partner’s feelings develop away just because you chose to ignore them. In fact, they will likely end up resenting it.

Couples in a successful marriage know how to compromise with each other. It is a mistake to to to get your way every single time when you two are arguing. Both of you should get their needs and wants met sometimes. Over all, married couples are much happier when they learn how to effectively compromise with each other.

Don’t always try to place the blame on your partner either. It’s only human to try to avoid accepting blame most times. It is vital to apologize profusely if you the upset your partner greatly by doing something wrong. Try to avoid raising your defenses whenever you and your partner are trying to have a conversation. One of the easiest ways to ensure that your partner puts his or her defenses up is to start name-calling.

Remember what’s truly important in your relationship. It is best that neither of you waste much time fighting over things that are relatively trivial. It is in your best interests to spend time only arguing about serious things.

If you and your partner live together for many years, then you certainly won’t be able to avoid having fights. However, you certainly don’t want to fight with your partner day in and day out. Get everything out in the open and discuss your problems as rationally as possible.

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on Stop Divorce and www.marriage-success-secrets.com.

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