3 Mistakes To Avoid In Your Marriage

Regardless of our stature in life, we all have a few things in common. One of these is the fact that when we embark on marriage for the first time, we really don’t know what we are doing. Building a marriage is one of the hardest things to do. Unfortunately, there is no instruction manual. Since every relationship is different, there is no singular method that will work for us all. You should know that both of you will make mistakes, and you’ll need to learn from them. There are, however, three cardinal rules for every marriage of things that married people should never do.

1. Don’t Be a Spy

The first of these sins is spying. Spying is indicative of distrust, and no marriage can grow successfully without trust. You can find fault with anyone if you try hard enough. Do you think your partner is cheating on you? Do you think he goes to work too much? Do you think that your wife is too secretive? Rather than resort to spying, it’s usually best to talk about these problems. Your marriage will never be the same even if your fears are unfounded. Communication opens up lines of understanding between a couple while spying merely serves to shut them down.

2. Keep Your Dirty Laundry To Yourself

One should never talk about their partner’s family either. You should expect to get along with some but not others as is usually the case. Your spouse probably sees their problems but doesn’t want you mentioning it constantly. You should avoid attacking the character of anyone, but it’s fine to discuss specific behaviors sometimes. You wouldn’t like the outcome of this. He or she may side against you, or even side with you against his or her family which you shouldn’t want.

3. The Grass is Never Greener

People also shouldn’t compare their spouse to other people. Never tell your wife that an ex-girlfriend had the world’s most gorgeous hair, because that will cause her to feel that she’s being compared unfavorably, even if the statement is true. Never rub it into your husband that if you’d gone ahead and married Joe, you’d be wealthy now. That will only cause your spouse to feel like a failure, and that’s not healthy for anyone. Doc No. psdlhsldh-tlshdkl

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on how to save a marriage and stop divorce

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