A New Addition To The Family Will Bring Additional Happiness

Anyone who has expanded their family know it can be challenging. The best thing to do is prepare for the transition by making sure everyone knows what will happen and that some things will remain the same no matter what. Chances are your other children will have the most difficult time adjusting. They may feel as if they have no control, and much of the attention that was focused on them will no longer be just for them. This often leads to the child acting out and there being a period of adjustment that is tough on the entire family. Keep in mind that there should be a period of preparation before your family expands. If you are expecting, you will have several months to explain to your children what is going to change. It also gives you plenty of time to work on getting things organized and in order so your transition to having a newborn in the house again will go smoothly. If you are trying to get pregnant through medical treatments and your child will come to you through IVF Oakville Ontario or infertility Oakville Ontario services, there will still be plenty of preparation time.

Should you be adopting or fostering a baby, there will be a period of time where you are filling out paperwork and getting things straight with the agency. Make sure this time is used wisely and you get your other children ready for the transition ahead.

Instead of worrying about the adjustment period, prepare for it. Understand that the children already in your family will have a difficult time and you should make sure you do what you can to ease them into being a big brother or big sister. Talk with them so they know what to expect. Explain to them there may be times when more attention is given to the new baby, but that it is because the new baby requires more assistance with things like eating and getting dressed.

If the big brother or big sister can claim independence, it will build their confidence and they will feel great. Explain that you are going to need their help once the new baby arrives and then allow them to help. Find age appropriate helpful things your older child can assist with. Children love teaching and allowing them to show their sibling the ropes will help them adjust.

Finally, schedule time when you and the older children can still spend time along together. Every so often make plans with just the two of you and leave baby behind with your spouse or another relative. Your old child will respond positively to special treatment and things they can do because they are older.

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